What does a new month mean to us?
What will you do with this month to make
it different from the rest? What will
you do to look back and say, this month
changed my life?
Well here’s a suggestion.
Dr Wayne
Dyer says that
most
people think that their happiness is not
in their control.
They think that circumstances create
their state of happiness.
I know that for most of you that is not
true. I know that you know that you can
control your state, and that happiness
is in your control. BUT, here’s the
critical question: How much do you
actively work on your mental state
minute by minute? How often do
you stop to ask yourself what state
you’re in – Especially when the going
is tough!
Knowing is one thing, doing is another.
On our member call last Thursday, as a
prelude to looking at our unique
abilities, we discussed the Focus Tip of
on Emotional States.
One member talked about a family
situation, and the negative dip she
found herself in. She decided to examine
her state and see which rung of the
ladder she was on. No surprise there!
She discovered she was in a depressed
state of feeling victimized. Immediately
upon realizing that, she pictured the
rungs of the ladder in her mind, and
decided she could easily change her
state to irritated. From there she was
able to put the scenario into
perspective and move to a positive
state. Voila – her situation was
immediately transformed. Her slump was
gone, unlike the times we have when we
drag these things into hours or days. Or
in some families it can be weeks and
years! In some countries, it can be
generations.
When is enough, enough?
What can
you do as leaders to
change this? What can you do, not only
for yourselves, but for the others
around you? First and foremost you can
lead by example? Soon people will be
asking you, “Barbara, what’s different
about you?” You’ll be attracting
different people into your life. While
you are in your new state of calm, new
ideas will come to you and your whole
prosperity consciousness will change.
Why not do that for ourselves and for
others as leaders, today?
Dr Dyer points out that most people let
themselves get dragged by events from
one victimized state to another. First
it’s the traffic, then it’s the
colleague, then it’s the boss, or the
project or the customer. “The only road
to joy,” he says, “is taking control and
responsibility over your own state of
mind.”
Tony Robbins points out that we can
change our state anytime we want. In
fact, by asking yourself what state you
are in, your mind shifts from the
emotional side to the logical side, and
you’ve broken the grip on the negative
state.
One-Minute Focus Tip:
So let’s make this month the turning
point of our lives – truly, once and for
all. Let’s decide today, as Dyer
suggests, to
never let
ourselves be dragged down by
circumstances.
Let’s use the rung of
the ladder technique as follows:
First - identify
your state, tell yourself what
rung of the ladder you are on. (Below is
the list of emotions for Esther & Jerry
Hicks Ask and It Is Given in
order from high to low.)
Joy/Love/Freedom/Appreciation
Positive Expectation
Optimism
Hopefulness
________
Pessimism
Irritation
Feeling Overwhelmed
Blame
Anger
Revenge
Rage
Depression/Fear/Despair/Powerlessness/Grief
Second – picture
the ladder in your mind, and see
which rung you can jump up to. Can you
go from depression to anger? That’s
pretty easy. Anger gives relief from
depression. Once you’ve jumped one rung,
you can jump more.
